Great Quote on Adoption

I read this quote today and really loved it…

“The adoptive mother believes she is the real mother because she is the one who got up in the middle of the night and was there for the child in sickness and health. The birth mother believes she is the real mother because she went through nine months of sculpting the child within her body and labored to bring it forth into the the world. They are both right. The adoptive mother who loves and cares for the child is the real mother. And the birth mother who never forgets her child is also the real mother. By denying that adoptees have two real mothers, society denies them their reality.”

It is something that as we go through the process of adoption we have to keep in mind because although we will be raising our child and be the parents there will also be a woman that gave birth to a beautiful child and gave that child up in order to give their child something that they couldn’t give themselves by placing them with another family that had two parents, stable home life, money to care for them, or whatever other reason she had for adoption. Andy and I are hoping that we have a good relationship with our child’s birth parents and that they are included in as much of their child’s life as they want to be and are able to. We truly believe that knowing us and having us as parents but also knowing where they came from will be the best for them to grow up being secure in who they are.

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