October Adoption Support Group

This past week we had our Adoption group meeting. The topic was trans-racial adoption and whether it is right for us. We had already decided that we are open to trans-racial adoption and have taken the course work required by the IAC but thought it would still be an informative meeting to go to. It was a good group session to discuss potential issues we might be faced with if we adopt trans-racially. We even got the chance to talk to someone who had adopted trans-racially through the IAC and get some information from their perspective. All-in-all it was great information and a great place to get some of our thoughts and feelings out among people that understand because they have had the same feelings.

It also was a good time to get into the office and talk in general about what is going on with us in our wait. We talked with some friends at the meeting and decided to go out to dinner/drinks this week for some adoption bonding time. There are a lot of great families that we have met through the process so far and we always wish we had more time to see them and hang out. So far it seems like it is going to be a great group there this week to share what has been happening for each of us and catch up on what we have been up to!

The other great part was we got to go in and meet with our counselor and talk about how we have been doing lately and get a little perspective on the coming months. Since we have already passed the 18 month mark of waiting with the IAC we now will get google ads done for us, get to start reviewing and potentially redo our letter, and get a little bit of money back to do our own advertising in any ways we wish. It is frustrating to still be waiting but we are excited for some new things to keep us busy the next couple months again.

She also calmed some of our fears or stress about the wait and reassured us on some things we have been struggling with lately. We know it will happen at some point and that it is just waiting for the right birth mother to find us but that can be hard to remember at times, especially around the holidays. As Andy keeps telling people all we want for Christmas is a baby. Earlier this year we had turned down a potential placement for some extenuating circumstances that we were just not prepared to take on at that time and now that we are still waiting it has us thinking about whether that was the right decision or not. Our counselor helped us remember that there were reasons why we choose to not proceed with that placement and adoption is stressful enough without choosing a situation that we are comfortable with.

Cancun Vacation/Work Trip

A view from our resort, this is going to be a great week!

A view from our resort, this is going to be a great week!

It was a wonderful vacation/work trip for us this year. Every year Stephanie’s company sends everyone on a training weekend event to team build, network, and learn about what is going on in the company. It is a blast every year and we are thankful that Andy is able to join. This year we also got the opportunity to extend the trip by a couple extra days to make a vacation out of it for us.

We spent the first couple days relaxing around the resort, laying in the pool, eating lots of food, and going kayaking. It was a great way to start off since we have both been so busy working the last couple months. We also met a couple of other guests from Brazil and had fun getting to know them. The kayaking was a bit of a struggle as I ended up in the water since the double kayak had very low back support and was a flat top.

Chichenitza was so amazing!

Chichen Itza was so amazing!

Selfie on our tour of the ruins

Selfie on our tour of the ruins

Cenote (sink hole)

Cenote (sink hole)

We then decided that it was time to see a little culture while in Mexico. We took a guided tour of Chichen Itza and a Cenote. It was amazing! Although it was hot outside and by the end of the day we were exhausted it was great to learn so much about the area and the Mayans. We were also lucky to have a couple helpful coworkers and other tourists that were willing to help us down and out of the Cenote. The water in the Cenote was so cold and refreshing to get into and we all were wishing we were able to go for another dip after walking around in the hot sun at Chichen Itza.

Team building and giving back. We built bikes for local children and gave them some school supplies.

Team building and giving back. We built bikes for local children and gave them some school supplies.

There were a couple of days of work meetings and events that came at the end of our trip. I won’t bore you with most of the details as it can be tiring to sit through if it isn’t your company. Andy was asked though to take photos for the company at all the events since we didn’t have a photographer. Everyone was so happy to see all the photos that he took and couldn’t wait for him to finish editing them!

Some of the best parts of the work days though are the team building (pictured above) and the dinners with coworkers. This year our team building activity included multiple events on the beach trying to complete challenges to ‘earn’ pieces of a bike. Afterwards, we all had to take our bike pieces and put them together. What made it even more fun was that the children we were donating the bikes to were there helping each team. It was so awesome to see them excited about the bikes and the supplies we gave them in new book bags. They were all showing off their gifts to their friends and seeing what they got!

All dressed up and excited to party!

All dressed up and excited to party!

Stephanie cutting up the rug on the dance floor with her coworkers!

Stephanie cutting up the rug on the dance floor with her coworkers!

Andy dancing at the banquet on Saturday

Andy dancing at the banquet on Saturday

The final part of our trip was Saturday evening when we had the company banquet. After handing out a few rewards and eating some good food it was time for the entertainment. There were many hilarious things happening on the dance floor but it was a lot of fun and everyone in attendance had a blast. I wasn’t able to include it in the blog but there was even a great video of Andy dancing because he happened to be standing in the wrong place trying to take pictures!