Adoption Poem

Once there were two women who never knew each other
One you do not remember, the other you call Mother
Two different lives shaped to make you one
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun
The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it
The first gave you a need for love, the second was there to give it
One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name
One gave you a talent, the other gave you aim
One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried you tears
One made an adoption plan, that was all that she could do
The other prayed for a child, and God led her straight to you.
Now, which of these two women, Are you the product of?
Both, my darling, Both, Just two different types of love.
Unknown Author

Great Quote on Adoption

I read this quote today and really loved it…

“The adoptive mother believes she is the real mother because she is the one who got up in the middle of the night and was there for the child in sickness and health. The birth mother believes she is the real mother because she went through nine months of sculpting the child within her body and labored to bring it forth into the the world. They are both right. The adoptive mother who loves and cares for the child is the real mother. And the birth mother who never forgets her child is also the real mother. By denying that adoptees have two real mothers, society denies them their reality.”

It is something that as we go through the process of adoption we have to keep in mind because although we will be raising our child and be the parents there will also be a woman that gave birth to a beautiful child and gave that child up in order to give their child something that they couldn’t give themselves by placing them with another family that had two parents, stable home life, money to care for them, or whatever other reason she had for adoption. Andy and I are hoping that we have a good relationship with our child’s birth parents and that they are included in as much of their child’s life as they want to be and are able to. We truly believe that knowing us and having us as parents but also knowing where they came from will be the best for them to grow up being secure in who they are.